Extra Credit: Sexy

"It was a wife's worst nightmare. After nine years of marriage, Laxmi told Miranda, her cousin's husband had fallen in love with another woman" (Sexy). And this is someone's worst nightmare when they are in a relationship. I like this text because I think it explores an area that is familiar for many, but uncomfortable to talk about. Obviously, we all know that cheating is wrong and immoral, but that belief is based on the idea that everyone and everything is perfect and flawless. This is just not accurate and can be seen in our everyday lives. Of course nobody sets out to hurt another person, especially someone they love and care for; well, that is mostly true. Unfortunately, there are the occasional jerks that know what they are doing is harmful and intentional, but even those cases may be due to their own personal crisis within themselves. But when two mature people have a healthy relationship based on trust and love, perfection cannot be expected. We are human, we make mistakes, we do not have control over our feelings for others, only what we do with those feelings.

As I said in class, I have a friend who has been denied sexual relations with her boyfriend of thirteen years; this has been going on for the past two years. She loves him, so leaving just is not an option for her. So what is a person to do? Intimacy is a necessary and healthy part of a loving relationship, and it is not natural and can be emotionally damaging to be denied that from your partner. It can lead to depression, which can lead to physical health problems, so in a round about way, having sex is vital to your health! Okay, so maybe that's stretching it a bit and in light of a deep issue. But realistically, cheating is just not as cut and dry as we all want it to be. It is a decision, yes, but sometimes those decisions are not made in the best state of mind and circumstances. And sometimes they are incredibly hard and heartbreaking to make.